Emotional After Effects

[RikkiLiz]

Hello all,

I am new to the forum. I was hospitalized for viral meningitis a month ago, putting my full time job, school, motherhood, and wedding planning (I'm getting married in May!) on hold for two weeks. The hospital experience was a very negative one and very stressful. My job forced me to return to work before I fully recovered on threat of termination. My online classes could only work with me so much, and the wedding planning just moved right along as quickly as ever. Needless to say, things have been extremely stressful. Since plunging back into the full swing of everything so suddenly, I have noticed some terrible things. I have no patience for anything. I am irritable, hostile, and aggressive. My relationship with my fiance is struggling, and my poor daughter is getting the short end of my impatience. I am so scared. Has anyone seen this before?

[dmat01]

I hope my response does not make you mad. I really am sincere when I say I can hear your pain.

Sorry to hear of the threat of termination. Since there are not many people in our daily environment which has ever dealt with meningitis- there is little or no support when you need it the most. I have been a voice talking to people about this disease every since my husband experenced meningitis. Of the people I have talked with that experienced a form of viral meningitis, many were forced to return to work very quickly after release from the hospital.

Whie through experience, I understand that resting and not over extended yourself is very important. The fears and changes in your body, attitude, and emotions are all over the place after experiencing this illness.

I hope that you find the ability to put whatever you feel into words that you can share with your loved ones without them getting the short end of the stick of your impatience. Maybe, if you intertain the thought that they might also be as scared as you are about what lies ahead. Try talking to them prior to the plunge getting to you. Because after the impatience of irritabilty , hostility or aggressive occurs that hinders if not stops any productive communications with others. I suggest that you ask for thier assistance and grant them permission to let you know when they see your emotions are spiralliing in the wrong direction. Let then assist you instead of beating then down with outburst of emtions which fuels thier fears.

If you can not talk with your Primary Doctor or Neurologist about these issues then you might consider talking with a professional counselor which can help you through all the challenges you are facing. My husband did two years ago. These sesssions are very benefical for him as he deals with and accepts he changes in his life since this illness.

[MailMe01]

Hi, RikkiLiz: it's been a few years since my meningitis. The biggest lessons I learned are that chances are, none of your doctors have any meaningful hands-on experience with meningitis cases. And that it takes way longer to recover than most people think. The best advice I can offer is to rest, rest, rest when you need to, and let the little things go to help ease up on stress (which only makes things worse). It took me all of 18 months to feel normal again. I was working, functioning (but really only going through the motions). And I don't think there is really any way to hurry things along. Best wishes to you, and take care of yourself. I know another lady who gets yet another bout of viral meningitis when she gets worn down and over stressed.

[berry33]

Hello all,

I am new to the forum. I was hospitalized for viral meningitis a month ago, putting my full time job, school, motherhood, and wedding planning (I'm getting married in May!) on hold for two weeks. The hospital experience was a very negative one and very stressful. My job forced me to return to work before I fully recovered on threat of termination. My online classes could only work with me so much, and the wedding planning just moved right along as quickly as ever. cialis online Needless to say, things have been extremely stressful. Since plunging back into the full swing of everything so suddenly, I have noticed some terrible things. I have no patience for anything. I am irritable, hostile, and aggressive. My relationship with my fiance is struggling, and my poor daughter is getting the short end of my impatience. I am so scared. Has anyone seen this before?

I totally agree with MailMe01 when he says that dealing with meningitis needs an experience.. also I agree with his advice..
relax and rest...